Since you are five years younger than me, you and I had different childhoods. Yes, you were exposed to the yelling, and what happened it me, however, by the time that you were old enough, mom had "smartened up", and didn't hit you the way that she hit me. She treated you so differently than she treated me.
SHE BEAT ME, Danielle, do you remember that at all? She hog tied me with a jump rope when I was in the 7th grade, so I would see what it would be like if she had to put me in the children's mental hospital...
You talk about emergencies and bailing her out... You do it then. I can't. I feel bad for her and the situation that she is in, but mostly I feel bad that she hasn't learned for her life choices, and the help that has been offered to her by BOTH OF US.
Her asking to live in a "corner of my garage" is emotional blackmail... She knows that Marie just moved out, so there seems that there is an extra room in my house. What kind of monster would I be, if there was in fact a spare room and I did make her live in a "corner of my garage"?
Plus, her "I'll only live in a corner" is B.S. and we both know it. She sprawls... I imagine that is one of the issues that Joe has with her.
Bottom line, you are in a MUCH better place to take her. Credit card debt or not, you and John EACH make more than I do...You have no kids and an actual spare room... Plus mom doesn't hate John. And yes, vise versa...
Why she didn't ask you in the first place, is beyond me.
Was she trying to cause issues in my life? Because that IS what would happen.
My answer is no, I have told her so, and she has responded.
If this causes issues with you and or her, I cannot help that. I have to protect my family unit and my sanity. Having her in my home, is not protecting those things...
To sum it up, and shine a light on it... Having her live with me... posses the same problems as her living with her mother. Does that make it clear why I cannot do it?
Misty
